June 2013
If someone’s asking you how many drinks it’ll take for you to go home with them, going home with them should be the last thing you consider doing after leaving/pepper spray/ restraining order
if you’re a man and your reaction to a woman saying she wants equal rights is “so does that mean I can hit you now” maybe you should reassess your entire pitiful life
no one has a crush on me. i am too strong to be crushed
flums replied to your post: when i saw the “kanye will be forced to love a…
I’m confused bc I’m pretty sure kanye has named black women that he admires plenty of times and his mom is dark skinned and wasn’t he really close with her? and amber rose is dark too
that’s what i told an anon. (lol but amber rose is tan not dark but not the point). but i think the light vs dark imagery in some of his music videos is offensive (even if that was not the intent).
Just because one admires black women, doesn’t mean they value black women romantically.It’s easy to separate the type of women you find worthy of your romantic entanglements and those you think are really good examples of black womanhood in the “motherly” educator kind of way. It’s not mutually inclusive to admire black woman and want to love them in an non role model/ “My mom and Maya Angelau” kinda way.
It’s like the mammie complex of sorts. I can love mammie, I can love how she treats me, and the lessons she teaches and how she carries herself through the struggle. However I can also find her unattractive, and hold her to that light vs dark ideal without consciously realizing I’m doing it. I can find her to be completely devoid of sex appeal and all that womanhood encompasses outside of the educator/ caregiver ideal. I can think… “I admire her” while not believing her worthy of my love b/c I’m color struck. Men of color do it everyday, Lil Wayne loves his mother, but says he’ll never fuck with a dark skin chick again. And though Amber Rose may be “of color”, she is still in the Eurocentric ideals of beauty that makes SOME black men feel they have arrived and will have pretty babies.
Something tells me those 3 boys from “unlocking the Truth” are gonna grow up and feel black women don’t like the same things they like and totally stay away from black women.
I hope they know better. I hope they know that there are black girls that are into metal. Shit. I was totally into metal, punk and hard core grunge shit when I was 12, I still love metal. I was the ONLY black person at the Slipknot concert in ft. Lauderdale, I was the ONLY Black person at the Gwar concert.
I hope they don’t say things like, “Black girls made fun of us for being different, so I don’t deal with them”.
Those same black girls are getting made fun of for just being black and liking the same shit everyone else likes. Everyone gets picked on.
I dunno. i just would like to see us “non-stereotypical” (whatever that entails, b/c I don’t believe there is a way to be black), can be together and love each other in our blackness. I just don’t wanna deal with another Donald Glover talking about the trials of being an avante garde black man, while shitting all over black women.
“Loving me will not be easy. Some days I will be a stuttering apology and you won’t know how to handle all the things I’ve done wrong.”
—writingsforwinter (via thatkindofwoman)
“[TW: rape] Pornography affects people’s belief in rape myths. So for example if a woman says ‘I didn’t consent’ and people have been viewing pornography, they believe rape myths and believe the woman did consent no matter what she said. That when she said no, she meant yes. When she said she didn’t want to, that meant more beer. When she said she would prefer to go home, that means she’s a lesbian who needs to be given a good corrective experience. Pornography promotes these rape myths and desensitises people to violence against women so that you need more violence to become sexually aroused if you’re a pornography consumer. This is very well documented.”
—Catharine MacKinnon (via eauxmolly)
